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Dear Mari: Which path to a career?

HOW DO YOU PICK the right career path?

Dear Marilyn,

All of my life, I have wanted to be a sound engineer. Currently, I am a sound technician for a local theater. It pays pretty well. Nothing could be better.

So, what’s the problem? It is that I’m getting bored with it. I mean, this is my “dream job, right? If so, why do I have an urge to try something else as a career?

Ever since junior high school, I have had visions that I would be blessed with having the exact job that I now have. I can even remember writing an essay in eighth grade, in which we wrote about where we hoped to be in ten years. I wrote about exactly what I am doing now.

So, I am very confused. I am living my dream, and I am not satisfied. I am, for the first time, questioning my future. What should I do? Do you think that this is a phase? Or, do you think that I should try something else?

Signed, What’s In The Future?

Dear What’s In The Future?

There are very few people that know exactly what they will do for a career while they are in junior high. There are a few that are lucky enough to do it, of course, but they are not in the majority.

As a matter of fact, my beloved Jim has known that he wanted to be a journalist since he was 8 years old. He has taught it at the college level, and of course, is editor/owner of the Orange County Tribune (and before that, the Garden Grove Journal).

 In your case, you followed the dream that you had, and now you are finding out that it is, perhaps, not for you. I definitely advise that you do consider another career choice.

 Think about what things interest you. Then, think about what fields might encompass those interests.

 However, keep one thing in mind. No matter what your eventual career may be, work is not always fun. It is not always challenging. It can be routine and, yes even boring at times. But, hopefully, you will find a career that is fulfilling and interesting to you most of the time.

Dear Marilyn,

One of my ex-boyfriends told me that I was fat. So, I lost a lot of weight. Then, he told me that I was too thin!

I have spoken to my girlfriends about this issue. They have also had many experiences wherein a guy has called them too fat, or too thin, or too smart, or too boring.

What is it that men want? Is there no middle ground? The funny thing is, it seems like there are a lot of overweight men out there that are the first to call their women too fat.

Please give me your thoughts on this issue.

Signed, Angry Curvy Woman

Dear Angry Curvy Woman,

I’m glad to hear that he is an EX-boyfriend. I would have recommended that you dump the loser anyway.

You should be the weight you want to be for YOU. You don’t want to make these decisions based on what a guy tells you. You want to weigh what is healthy for you, because that is what is best for you.

 You and your girlfriends are people of value and worth. You deserve to be treated with respect. When a guy does not treat you that way, he is not worthy of you.

 Of course there is middle ground. You just weren’t with a guy that had found it. Be patient. There really are a lot of good guys out there.

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